An Occasional Post

It’s been a while, when I changed the blog’s name to the “Occasional Blog” I really wasn’t fibbing was I. So here is an occasional post, what have I been up to?

Well it’s been a busy few months at the Occasional blog HQ (when is it not?). Once again i’m in awe of the bloggers who manage to get content out there regularly while still looking after a family! The girls have been keeping me busy as usual. Little m has been growing up rapidly and recently celebrated her 2nd birthday. She’s spending a lot of time copying her big sister as well as practicing her “terrible twos”. There have been a few tantrums but nothing out of the ordinary, thankfully. She recently started doing 3 days at week at the same nursery school as big M. Which is great as the school is on a farm and incorporates a Forest School, both girls love going there.

It’s also great from my perspective as I get two days a week now where both girls are at school. Can I finally address my expanding waistline and get fit again on the bike? No, there’s housework to do. To be fair I have still managed to get on the road and do some training as well as get the housework done. And look, today I’ve even enough time to write a blog post! Go me.

We also recently found out where M is going to go to “big school” in September. School places are allocated by the county council, you can request up to four schools in order of preference. We got our first choice which is great as we had heard of some parents not getting any of their choices. It appears in some areas where there are a high density of children all vying for one or two good local schools, people will lose out.

Now we have to start the marketing campaign to get her used to the idea of the change to big school. M really doesn’t like change and is so settled at her nursery we’re worried she will struggle going to a new setting. Especially as we seem to have picked a school where none of her friends are going. But let’s face it, you remember your primary school days and the friends you make there very fondly. At least that’s what we’re telling ourselves!

It was quite emotional for me and my wife, the realisation that our little girl is growing up and starting school. That’s one inevitability I’ve recognised since being a parent; however long you feel certain stages of their lives are going, before you know it, time flies by and you’re left wondering “how did that happen?”

Talking of which….time has flown and it’s almost time to go and pick them up from nursery. Back to the grindstone!

Party Politics

No, not of the Brexit variety. I’m talking about the minefield that can be 4yr old birthday parties.

This was brought home to me at earlier this week when I picked up a little envelope from my daughter’s drawer at pre-school. This was at picking up time and there followed an embarrassing situation.

We opened the envelope and I read the contents to her, it was a birthday party invite from one of the other girls in the class. M was so overexcited she skipped out and off to the car we went. We were leaving at the same time as one of her little friends.

She excitedly asked her “are you coming to the party?”

Little friend; “Yes”

Little friend’s mother; “NO, you’ve not been invited!”

I was silently chastising myself for mentioning the envelope, I should have waited until we were in the car before we opened it.

We have got to know each other through our girls friendship at pre-school and I felt immediately embarrassed. It’s quite something isn’t it when you worry about mentioning if your child has got an invite to so-and-so’s party in case the child of the person you’re talking to hasn’t. Not everyone decides to hire a space that can cope with the 30+ children in M’s room at pre-school.

Worrying about party invites when your child is only 4yrs old! I fear there is more of this to come! But that is what happens isn’t it, despite your best intentions, you worry if your child is going to be well liked among their peers.

I try not to worry, after experiencing the chaos that is a party in a soft play last weekend I can happily never experience that again. But you want the best for your children and if going to a birthday party is what they want then along you go!

However another dilemma is soon to raise its head. It’s M’s birthday next month and we are organising a party for her (it’s all a 4yr old wants afterall) in the local village hall. We’ve booked an “ice-princess” entertainer (you can guess who). They are expensive and as soon as you have more than 25 kids you need to pay for another entertainer to support them. So now we have to decide who gets invited and who doesn’t from her pre-school. M doesn’t care as long as Elsa is at her party so as ever it’s left to us parents to navigate the minefield that is children’s birthday parties.

Help!